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20 June 2013 @ 12:21 pm
Words You Should Have Said…  
Whenever I write something, no matter the significance, from as small as a twitter post to as big as my novel, I chose my words very carefully. And I re-read them several times over before completely committing to them, trying to imagine all the ways those words could possibly be taken. I even re-read them several more times after they’re official just to make sure they still come across the way I intended them to.

It’s the same with speaking for me. I hate the idea of saying something and not being able to take it back so I better really mean it before it leaves my mind. And I’m not one to speak up about something factual unless I am 100% sure I know what I’m talking about.  I say something over and over again to myself before I unleash it from my tongue. I even practice different scenarios in my head so that I know I’ll react properly should I be confronted with one of those situations.

Despite all this effort, I’m constantly reminded that no matter how cautious I am with the words I write or say, I can never truly predict the way someone will perceive and react to them. I often find myself wondering if there was something else I should have said, something to have garnered a different response, but I know it’s really just a waste of brain energy. People are going to view and react according to their own disposition. Nothing you did or didn’t say/write would have changed that.

Do any of you obsess about saying/writing the perfect words only to find yourself shocked by the reactions of those on the receiving end?
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(Anonymous) on June 20th, 2013 08:12 pm (UTC)
well said
thank you for sharing! please check your inbox on fb. love you #1!
swhistedswhisted on June 29th, 2013 01:45 am (UTC)
Re: well said
No problem. Love you, too, Aunt Maria! ;)
Heatheredgyauthor on June 21st, 2013 09:29 am (UTC)
I can relate to this so well. I always seem to be saying the wrong thing. :(
swhistedswhisted on June 29th, 2013 01:48 am (UTC)
Not necessarily the wrong thing, but the thing someone else didn't want to hear. It sucks to question the words we thought out so carefully before we spoke them just because someone else didn't react the way we thought they would. :/
Akossiwa Ketogloakossket on July 1st, 2013 05:34 pm (UTC)
I definitely try to be aware of what I'm saying or writing at all times, but like you said there is no way to predict how someone is going to react to your words.
swhistedswhisted on July 1st, 2013 10:32 pm (UTC)
Sometimes I wonder why I put so much thought into it - knowing what I know about how people will react regardless, but I could never just not care - it's just not in my nature. :/